On Needing To Hit The Reset Button

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My jaw is tense, my shoulders tight. I may have started grinding my teeth in my sleep again (something I first picked up during wedding planning). A dull headache has been my constant companion for several days. My stomach swells and aches from stress eating – a habit I fought hard to break in order to lose weight. I have been pushing hard and running at full speed in every area of my life and I’m reaching my breaking point.

I didn’t reach the goals I set for myself this weekend. I didn’t accomplish everything on my to do list. And I’m having trouble letting go of the feelings of disappointment. I want to keep pushing, to stay up late, to have another cup of coffee, even though my mind is fried and I know I can’t be productive. I’m beating myself up over a few tasks left unfinished and ignoring all that I do every single day (from running a household, to keeping two kids alive). As the old phrase goes, I cannot see the forest for the trees.

I need to find a way to reset. To refresh my tired body and weary mind.

One item on the unfinished to do list this weekend? Write blog posts! When I think about my blog and what direction I’d like to take it in as it grows, I am really drawn to the topics of self love and self care. Time to be totally honest with you though – I really suck at self love and self care! Maybe that is why I feel so passionate about them – because I am so desperate to experience them for myself. When I said I was wishing for more grace, rest, and calm in 2017, I wasn’t kidding.

hit the reset button

So instead of pushing harder, and staying up later, I stopped. I took a hot shower to relax. And then I gave myself exactly thirty minutes to write this perfectly imperfect blog post for Monday morning. After that thirty minutes I’m sending myself straight to bed. If it doesn’t get finished, it doesn’t get finished (same goes for the load of laundry I’m leaving in the dryer until another day).  It’s a compromise of sorts between my soul that so desperately craves more rest and my mind that is so driven to achieve. If it doesn’t get done, it doesn’t get done. The world will keep on spinning.

Hopefully I wake up refreshed Monday morning, ready to tackle a new week. If not, we’ll need to explore self care even more and come up with a better plan.

Do you ever need to hit the reset button?

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  1. Resting is so important and something that I think people don’t do often enough. I fall into this habit as well. Take care of the house, the husband, the baby, the dogs. Sometimes I have to stop and remember to take care of me as well.

  2. I find myself hitting the reset button often.. sometimes it’s just a necessary part of life.

  3. Yes! I think we all need some rest and a reset now and again. That way we can recharge and refresh.
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  4. Good for you! I think our instincts ARE to push harder rather than to recoop. If we aren’t getting enough rest or stepping away from the grind, out outlook and happiness definitely suffer.

  5. I love your writing! And yes, I agree sometimes its good to press the reset button and start fresh. We all go through such times and the best way is to cut ourselves some slack and take a breather
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  6. It’s like you know me! I was right there last week. Pushing, and pushing, and being very unforgiving with myself. Not practicing self-love at all. Not giving myself a break. Thanks – I needed to hear this; a reminder that I need to rest and not be so hard on myself. Great post, and much needed words that more moms need to hear. 🙂

  7. Every couple of weeks I need to take a break and reset. It’s like I have a stress bar and when it hits 100% I suffer from burn out.

    • Oooh, a stress bar! I love that Chloe! I definitely have one too. So smart of you to know you will need that rest every few weeks.

  8. I think that it’s a good thing to sometimes just step back and hit the reset button. Being overly stressed is never a good thing. I do not do well with handling stress, so I have tried getting better at it. There are some things I set out to accomplish and it doesn’t get done. I have learned that it’s okay and that I can try again another day.

  9. I couldn’t agree more, but have to admit that I have a very tough time relaxing and doing things for myself. Your post has inspired me to try harder.

    • So glad I could inspire you Nancy – we’re in this together. I have a tough time relaxing too, even though I encourage everyone else to do it.

  10. Yes! A full reset, a total break and forgiving yourself for tasks that don’t get done. That’s been me lately. I’m quite a bit behind on my blogging goals, but I just can’t do it all. I’ve been sick, have been busy with my kid and his birthday party plans, and everything else is just kind of taking a back seat.
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    • And that’s all okay Julie! 🙂 You’re an amazing mom, wife, blogger, employee and more! You’re right that we can’t do it all! At least not all at the same time! Things do need to take a backseat from time to time and it’s okay to switch priorities around to suit that. Hope you’re feeling better!

  11. Beautiful post, thank you so much for sharing your feelings and story!
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  12. It’s so hard for me, too, but self care is the best way to care for everyone else around you!

  13. I wish I could write a post in 30mins. It’s an epic task at times!!

  14. Super glad I read this, I completely forgot to do laundry. Good on you for taking time to yourself. I think we all need to do that.
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  15. I hope you got the rest you needed! I’m a BIG believer in self care also, but it’s so hard to actually implement when you’re so busy taking care of everyone else.
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  16. This is so important to do, there is not reason to force anything. Especially with writing, that is difficult to force and you will not be happy with the results.
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  17. I’m sometimes too hard on myself for not meeting all my weekly goals, but I celebrate the progress I did make and revamp my goals for the next week.

    • That is awesome Esther! We should celebrate everything we did do and not focus so much on the negative of what we didn’t do. Love your approach!

  18. Hearing you describe your life…. honestly feels like I am typing it myself. I am exhausted from going and going…. I have a million different things to do … and you are right… sometimes we just have to stop and rest.
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    • I feel your exhaustion Mary 🙁 I hope you are able to slow down and get some rest soon. I promise it will reinvigorate you and you’ll come back better than ever!

  19. you have to have some me time

  20. Self care is health care. Us moms could run ourselves into the ground if we let ourselves. I think I needed a good reminder to hit the reset button! Thank you for sharing this.
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    • You’re very welcome Alexandria! And you just coined my new favorite phrase – “self care is health care” – so thank you for that! I love it!

  21. I’ve been feeling a lot like this lately, especially when we’ve had broken nights with my daughter 🙁 I just keep reminding myself that this too, will pass.
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  22. I don’t rest enough, but I really need to! It’s so important for healing.
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  23. I love this and it’s the perfect reminder! I think sometimes we’re too hard on ourselves and push ourselves too much when really we need to just live, let go, and enjoy more! 🙂

  24. I’ve learned it’s so important to take care of oneself. We think we should keep going ,but sometimes it’s just better to stop and reset!

  25. I can relate! I’ve been thinking and wishing for the same for 2017. With my health problem deteriorating, the need to hit the reset button is so tempting. I really enjoyed reading this post. Great post!

  26. Yes I had just recently hit the reset button in August and quit one of my jobs. It was a bit scary at first but I knew it would be better for me to focus on resetting verses being miserable about everything.

  27. I’m in desperate need of a reset! My husband works endless hours so I’m always alone with our 3 boys. I always try to take a bath or do something alone but it never ends up working out. One of these I’ll get that reset 😉

    • Oh I totally understand Amanda! My husband is gone a lot too and I have my boys from breakfast to bedtime – it’s totally exhausting! <3

  28. I was listening to a podcast today about why women always say, “I’m sorry”. I think it falls in line with your comment about being bad at self love. I can understand your feeling this way, I think it is a woman thing. I hope for you that you can get better at taking care of yourself.
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    • Such a good observation Cynthia! I am guilty of saying “I’m sorry” too often. Will continue to try to grow in this area! <3

  29. Same here! I have been stressing about work, blogging, life that nothing gets done. I love setting a timer, completing a task in that amount of time and MOVING on! It might be imperfect but things get done.

  30. Yes I need a good reset. I need to start my yoga again, it helped
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  31. I need to hit the reset button right now! After a hectic and emotional summer followed by a long drawn out process to sell our house, I need a break! I can relate! Somebody send in Calgon…
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  32. Such a great post! Resting is so important but in today’s society we just don’t give ourselves that rest, we treat it as a luxury when it’s a necessity.

  33. I think – because of how much better we can perform when rested – a good night sleep is the best way to ensure we can make up those tasks we missed.
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  34. It’s so very import to take the time for personal reset-great post!

  35. Yes, I can totally relate. Chamomile lavender tea, melatonin, bath soaks, lavender essential oil, and watching movies by myself is how I reset.

    • Oh wow! I love your list Michelle, thanks for sharing! All that lavender sounds wonderful, and I have had great results from melatonin in the past.

  36. I set myself the challenge a few weekends ago that I need to start doing things for me, even wrote a selfcare list!

  37. Setting a timer ealy helps me stay on task and make sure I still have some personal time.

  38. Thanks for posting this, I really need and I’m agree with you that sometimes we need to take a full and complete rest! Nowadays even the simpliest thing in life is stressful!

  39. Sometimes I feel as though when I am having a rest I am still working. A reset button is what I may need from time to time. Hope you are feeling better!

  40. I really wanted to have a 1 week sleep! I’m dying to have it. And I’m praying all of us who wants will get it soon! <3

  41. I can totally relate to this! This year has been so stressful for me, I think it would now need a mallet to soften my shoulders. LOL! Backpains apparently are my constant companion now. I think it is one way my body is telling me to slow things down a bit. But if you have a million things to worry about, it’s hard to do so. Like you, I suck at self love and self care. Oh well, something that I would need to start learning how to do though.

  42. Same! I actually do better when I write out a to do list, because even if I don’t finish it I can see that I accomplished some of the things I wanted to do. On the other hand, when I fly by the seat of my pants I feel like I did nothing no matter how much I worked all day long.
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  43. I hope you’re able to rest and reset! Self care is definitely important and something I have neglected in the past. I’m thankful to have the time coming up to take a break!

  44. This post and Instagram photo came at the right time today. I really needed this. Thank you so much for sharing!
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  45. I’m pretty sure you and I are two peas in a pod. I hate it when I don’t get everything done that I wanted, and I’m really really awful at self-care. Sometimes I tell myself that taking care of everyone else is an act of self-care because if they’re happy I’ll be happy, but that doesn’t always cut it. Good luck to both of us!
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  46. Self care is so hard! We had a “open up and tell the one thing you struggle with the most” conversation last week at church. Everyone was overwhelmed with too much to do and no balance.

    So rest, friend. Take a moment to yourself and give yourself a break.
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  47. I would love to have some time for myself and do some reset. Lovely post thanks for sharing it

  48. I would love to hit the reset button every afternoon. As busy moms their is always something on the do list. Looking on the bright side, you made it through the day 🙂

  49. Oh I need a reset moment ASAP.. I would love one come Monday turning 41 EEKS lol… no but seriously I’ve on non stop as of late and a little reset would be awesome. Thanks for sharing.
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  50. I avidly practice self care and I still need and take a reset. There as a time when that wasn’t the case.
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  51. The best thing about this is knowing that we have another opportunity to get it right – so hit that reset button! 🙂
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  52. We go through so much in a week, in a day, in an hour that would completely take all out energy and it’s good to give yourself time to breathe and rest.

  53. I really agree Erin, thanks for sharing. Sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves, that it becomes counterproductive. A while back somebody gave me the advice that I should be kinder to myself and it really resonated with me. It’s something I try and remind myself of, whenever I feel stressed about all the things I need to get done.

  54. I can definitely relate to this…especially with the insanely busy season of life I’m going through right now. Great reminders and helpful tips for relishing in some much-needed “me time!”

  55. Hitting the reset button is so important to do every so often. There is nothing like a fresh start to change your outlook on life.

  56. This is me. I do this. I go and go and go and go and keep coming when there is nothing left. You are so right though. If I just stop and rest, I can be better for myself and for everyone around me.
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  57. Big believer in grace. May we all have it in abundance for 2017. Thank you for the post. It’s nice to reset.

  58. I’m in desperate need of a “reset.” Thanks for this!

  59. I think it’s important to have even just a few hours of rest. It’s really nice to be able to unwind and just give yourself a breather.
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  60. Thanks so much for the reset reminder Erin. Life can be so hectic at times that we forget about recharging our own batteries and end up going flat. Treat yourself to a relaxing massage or even better get the kids to give you one 😉

    • Oh man Michelle, that’s the best idea I’ve heard in a while! I need to teach my kids how to give me back and foot rubs – genius! 🙂

  61. All the time! You are setting a great example, sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves is to pause and recharge. It is easier said than done but so important. I always appreciate the reminder, thank you!
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  62. I tried to leave a comment yesterday, but it seems that I may have closed the window before it actually posted…. I’m trying again!

    A reset button – YES! I have been trying to improve in the area of self-care. As moms, we are always the last to take care of ourselves. I loved your ideas and appreciate your post!

  63. Yes, yes, yes! I have been up late every night this week, and I’m exhausted. I made a promise to myself I would only complete a few necessary tasks tonight, and then get to bed. Thank you for this great reminder!
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  64. I am so with you! I haven’t been very good at self-care lately, and pressing my reset button is definitely in order!
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  65. A full reset is definitely what I need right now! Thanks you for sharing this!
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  67. I totally feel like every now and again that I need to hit the reset button! It is necessary.

  68. I feel the same as you, I can work, work, work and it never seems to all get done. It’s like I’m treading water. So there are many days that I keep pushing and pushing until I am so tired that I don’t make sense. And where’s the good in that? You did the right thing, setting a limit and then going to bed. I need to do far more of that myself. I hope that by setting a limit, that you were able to accomplish even more the next day. And feel better while you did it.
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    • I really want to carry more of that limit setting into 2017 Nikki! Maybe with timers? All the tasks on my to do list can really go on endlessly and something has to give!

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