50+ Questions You Should Ask Your Mother


With Mother’s Day just around the corner, I wanted to ask, how well do you know your mother? I mean, really know her? As a person, as a woman, not just as your mom?

How Well Do You Know Your Mother?

Sometimes, we may think we know the answer to a question because we believe we know a person so well. But when was the last time you really asked? Take some time to ask your mother these questions, and most importantly to listen to the answers. You might learn something surprising!

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Childhood Questions

What is your earliest childhood memory?

When you were a little girl, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Tell me about the happiest time from your childhood

Tell me about the worst or hardest time from your childhood

Love & Marriage Questions

Tell me about your first kiss

Tell me about your first crush

Tell about your first date ever! – How old were you? Who was your date? What did you do?

How many times have you been in love?

Tell  me about your first date with my dad

What made you fall in love with my dad?

Tell me about your marriage proposal

Tell me about your wedding day

What was your parent’s marriage like?

How many times have you had your heartbroken?

School Girl Questions

What kind of girl were you in high school?

Who was your best friend in high school? Are you still in touch today?

How did you rebel as a teenager?

Did you get good grades in school?

Did you play any sports as a child?

What were your childhood hobbies?

What was your favorite subject in school?

Who were your role models when you were young?

Questions About Her Mother

What did/do you love most about your own mother?

What’s one thing you never understood about your mother?

What traits of your own mother do you think you have inherited?

Life Questions

What has been the happiest moment of your life so far?

The saddest?

The scariest?

Have you made any big mistakes?

Do you have any regrets?

Have you ever kept a really big secret?

What would you do if you won a million dollars?

Which celebrity, dead or alive, would you love to have coffee with?

Questions About Her Interests

What’s the best book you have ever read?

What’s the best movie you have ever seen?

What’s your favorite season, and why?

What’s your favorite meal?

What’s your favorite hobby?

Where was the most memorable place you ever traveled to?

If you could only listen to one type of music, what would you choose?

Self Questions

How would you describe yourself in three words?

What kind of friend are you?

What is one thing you always wished you could change about yourself?

What is one thing you have always loved about yourself?

What’s the best piece of advice you were ever given?

What causes and charities are most important to you?

Health & Wellness Questions

Have you ever broken a bone?

Do you have any significant scars?

What’s your favorite way to get exercise?

What do you love most about your body?

Are there any family health issues I should be aware of?

Have you ever had a serious health scare?

Motherhood Questions

How did becoming a mother change you?

What was the best part of being a _______ mother? (fill in the blank: single/working/stay at home/young/older)

What was the hardest part of being a _______ mother? (fill in the blank: single/working/stay at home/young/older)

What is your best piece of advice for new moms?

What is one thing you hoped to teach your children?

What is one thing you would like to teach your grandchildren?

What do you love most about me? (and any siblings)

Which of our family traditions is most important to you?

If you could take your dream vacation this year, where would you go and what would you do?

Final Questions

How do you want people to remember you after you are gone?

How do you want us to celebrate your life after you are gone?

In Closing …

I’m in my early thirties and have sadly already lost one parent (my father). Every day I can think of a question I wish I could ask him. We need to cherish our parents while we still have them and ask as many questions as we can. <3

Do you have a question you’d like to ask your mom? Or a question you hope your children will ask you someday?

questions to ask your mother

Post your favorite questions for moms in the comments below!

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  1. Oh Erin what a lovely post! I love being able to have long conversations with my Mom and these are such great ideas!
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  2. My Mum is a very private person and whilst I would love to ask her these questions I know she would not not answer many of them. I’d be happy if my boys asked me though!

    (PS – you have asked the in love question twice and maybe with the Motherhood questions you need to add the option of older – that was me!).

  3. I wish I thought of this. What a great way to really get to know your mother and the way she grew up.
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  4. These questions are great. I’m actually surprised by how few of them I know the answer to, considering how well I thought I knew my mom. I think I’ll ask her a few of them, see if I can get her talking!
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  5. My mom and I are super close, but you have a few things here that we haven’t talked about. I really need to get her to sit down and write some of this stuff out for her grandchildren to read one day.

  6. This is a great list of questions! I thought I knew a lot about my mom but some of these would be a great conversation starter.
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    • Thanks Dawn, I’m glad you liked my list! We all could probably get to know our moms even better.

      • so wish I would have asked my mama these questions before she passed, the truth is I never thought about it and now its too late. I do hope many of the ladies reading your article will do this. It will also make Mom very happy you care about her so much..it sure would make me happy.

  7. What a fantastic list of questions to ask your mother. I realized, while reading this list, that I don’t know much about my Mother during her life before me. I will have to print this and have a conversation with yer.
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  8. Such a sweet post! I was trying to figure out if I knew the answers to these questions about my own mother. I knew quite a few, but there are definitely some great conversation starters here for us.
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  9. I don’t think I’ve asked my mom any of these questions. May be a good project for my daughter to do with her for some grandparent bonding time.

  10. Great things to think about. it would be fun to do a journal with my mom. Getting this information woudl be nice.
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  11. I love these questions! I have a lot of fun interviewing family members, especially my mom and grandmother.

  12. I once gave a book to my grandparents hoping they would fill them out and leave a history for their posterity. My grandma basically refused and gave me excuses for four years. Now my grandpa is gone and my grandma has Alzheimer’s. I’ll never have her story. That makes me sad. I hope I have better luck with my mom. I really don’t know much about her. Thanks for the great questions!
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    • That’s so sad Kathryn, I’m sorry that has been your experience. Hopefully you will have more luck with your mother. <3

  13. Ah, so sorry to hear about your dad, Erin. It really makes you want to appreciate who we still have around us. I’m sure asking some of these questions would start a lot more open conversations with our mom’s!
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  14. Great list! These are wonderful questions to ask to get to know our moms better as people and not just as moms.
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  15. I love these question. I wish my mom was still here so I could ask her questions. I thought I knew so much but sometimes when I talking to my husband I realize that I didn’t know a certain fact. It makes me sad that I can just call her up and ask her.
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    • I’m so sorry you lost your mom Nikki! 🙁 I have the exact same feelings as you, but about my dad. It’s tough <3

  16. There’s a lot of questions here. I think if I asked my mum all of these, she would throw me out of her house. Ha ha! But there are a few that I don’t know the answer of, so it would be nice to know the answers to them. I always regret that about my grandparents, not asking them more questions about when they were young.

    Sally @ Life Loving
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  17. Wow! These are great questions, I think that my kids could answer a good amount of them about me, but I try to be an open book with them, as appropriate. I want them to be open with me, so I think they are old enough to know most of the things I’ve done or haven’t. But my mom is a very private person, she doesn’t talk about those things. I think it comes from being born during WW2, and her parents were the stiff upper lip type, they were very loving, and so is my mom, they just don’t talk about deep things, like feelings etc. My mom was also a hospice nurse for years, sometimes I think it’s easier to just keep things in, there’s so much.

    Perhaps I’ll sneak a few of these questions in, here and there, when I see her. It would be nice to know her history. Thanks for the suggestions, I’ll try to sneak them into conversation, one by one!
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    • I totally understand what you mean Nikki! I actually come from a pretty private family, not big talkers or sharers at all. I’m kind of the oddball 🙂 I want to learn and know everything. I want to talk about love and feelings! 😉 And wow, your mom was a hospice nurse? I have such respect for that career. What amazing people. I’m sure she did have a lot to keep inside. <3

  18. What a lovely post Erin. I’m sad because my mother passed away 29 years ago but this post made me realise how important it is to ‘interview’ those we love to know them fully and to be able to keep the memories of them. Thank you for sharing with us at Over the Moon.
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  19. Oh, Erin, you made me want to bust out in tears. This is such a beautiful, thoughtful, and telling list of questions. I imagine that most mothers would want their children to be this interested in really getting to know them as people and not just as “mother”. I had the opportunity to ask and learn some of these things before I lost my mother 10 years ago and pepper my father with these types of questions. You’ve given me so much more to think about and ask/learn about my Dad. Thank you so much for sharing this lovely post with #UpsyDaisyLinkup!
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  20. What a beautiful set of questions. I feel like I know many of the answers my Mom would have given, but oh how it would have been so wonderful to have her answers exactly. I would even say it would be fantastic to have one’s Mother write the answers down in their own handwriting. I know I would have treasured that. They could later be incorporated into a scrapbook or scanned on the computer. We all get so busy,….don’t we? I wish I had had my Mom write more things down for me. The Motherhood Questions and the Final Questions are so touching. These are so beautiful and important questions. Since I can no longer ask my Mom, I’ll just have to imagine how she would have answered–
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  21. great questions to ask your mum Erin, visiting from #upsdaisylinkup
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  22. Not sure how many she’d answer . Wouldn’t mind making a family book with her answers x

  23. What a lovely list…sure to spark hours of conversation with my mama! Pinning! So glad I found you as a feature at this week’s Coffee & Conversation! 🙂
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  24. Oh wow, this is so interesting to me… I’m tempted to try these questions on my mom just as a kind of social experiment because, at least when I was growing up, my mom was very selective about what she told me about her past. Secretive, even. Wondering if that would have changed now that I’m an adult?

    It’s extra interesting, though, because my mom and I haven’t been very close since I became an adult, and I wonder if this sort of secretiveness (whether it still exists or is just a holdover in my mind from who we interacted in the past…) is why?

    SO DEEP. 😛 Thanks for giving me some food for thought… if I get brave enough to try out the questions I’ll have to come back and update you on the result!

    Thanks for sharing at #FridayFrivolity – pinning and tweeting!
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  25. Hi Erin Congratulations! Your post was in my top two picks for Over the Moon link up. Thank you for sharing and have a great weekend xx

  26. I became very emotional reading this. My mother and I were so close but she passed away 10 years ago, I still miss her so much everyday. I love this list of questions…I am going to do this for my children. We know so many things about our mother but yet the little things we never thought to ask.
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    • Sending you big giant hugs Pamela! <3 <3 I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom, I'm sure you do miss her every single day. I know I would, and I know I miss my dad so much. I really hope you do this for your kids! That's a wonderful idea 🙂

  27. Thank you, this is a great list of questions to get to know our dear mothers better. Many of this questions that you posted are deep questions. Our mothers might or might not be comfortable answering some of the deeper questions. I also wondering if I am willing, as mother, to be so vulnerable as to answer all this questions
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