I’m a mom of two, and I’m currently home with my kids (an infant and a toddler) full time while my husband works. Inevitably, I have to take the kids out and about to run errands.
Side note: Why are we ALWAYS out of baby wipes and coffee creamer even though we were just at the store yesterday?!
The phrase I am greeted with most often is “you have your hands full!” I hear it so often that I’m starting to wonder what people really mean when they say it. I hear it at the grocery store, I hear it at CVS, I hear it at library story time.
Is “you have your hands full” a negative comment?
I’ve heard this phrase so often that it’s started to make me think.
Do the speakers of these words think I’m not doing a good enough job as a mother? Most likely that’s my own negative thinking at work and a sign I need to work on my confidence. My kids are happy and healthy and surrounded by people who love them.
Am I being judged for the number of children I have, or for how close in age they are?
I only have two kids and they are 22 months apart. Seems reasonable to me. And if I had three, six or eight children, who’s business would that be but mine?
Do people think that my kids are out of control?
This can’t be true. My toddler is the most polite and friendly toddler on earth. I’m not exaggerating – he thanks me for changing his diaper! He loves to help push the cart at stores, and so far we haven’t had a public tantrum (how much longer can that good luck last?).
Even the baby is well behaved on errand runs. He does most of his crying (if he’s going to do any) in the car, and spends his time in public looking around and enjoying people watching. They are both super cute too, if I say so myself.
Of course, it’s not easy taking a baby and a toddler out by myself to run errands. I am outnumbered after all, and I’m always sweaty by the time I reach the grocery store checkout line.
I guess my hands are a little full.
As I was leaving the grocery store a few weeks back (with my toddler and baby both riding in my cart, surrounded by bagged groceries), a mom with one baby entering the store looked at me and said “You’re awesome!” Without even thinking about it, my response was “We all are!”
I wish I could go back and thank that mom for saying “You’re awesome!” instead of “Your hands are full!” It was like a verbal mom-to-mom high five! We couldn’t actually high five, since you know, our hands were so full. Her comment put a smile on my face instantly and boosted my mood for the rest of the day.
I also wanted to high five her for not noticing that my toddler was wearing a pair of dirty socks on his hands as gloves, and my baby was eating the grocery receipt. 😉
I shouldn’t get a gold star for grocery shopping with two kids, even thought it would be easier to go by myself. And I’m not a better mom than the mom who is shopping with just one baby in tow.
All moms, all parents, are awesome. All of our hands, and hearts, are probably a little full.